So you want to make a change, lose 10 pounds, stop yelling at your kids. Do you want to start working out consistently or eat more healthy? Maybe you want to read more or get your home organized. Whatever it is, change doesn’t often come easy for us, we have to work for it and create healthy habits that enable us to make the change happen.
I was recently feeling frustrated about the lack of time I had for my personal devotions. I came up with excuse after excuse until I realized I did have time but I was choosing to use that time for other things, social media, cleaning, making meals. I determined that first thing when I woke up I would commit that time to my quiet time and guess what? It happened! I have found time almost every day since. Sometimes it is interrupted by littles waking up and needing things, some mornings I make breakfast for C if he wakes up before I get a chance to spend time in the word, other mornings I put on a movie and let him watch it so that I can get a few uninterrupted moments. I don’t like to give him much screen time but I have found that I need my quiet time.
Are you needing a little guidance to make a change? Things I have learned about making a change are –
You have to be ready to make a change.
If you only kind of want to change, you won’t change. You have to be ready. Like REALLY ready, so sick of whatever it is that you will do whatever it takes to achieve your goals.
You have to really REALLY want to make a change.
On top of being ready to change you have to want to change. You have to want the change more than you want the comfort and ease of staying in old habits.
You have to do it for YOU!
Trying to change to make someone else happy or because you think that you will be liked better will not help you to obtain permanent habits. If the circumstances change, the habit will most likely revert as well. An exception to this — when I found out I was pregnant with my first son I quit smoking cigarettes for his health, it has been three years and I have no intentions of ever taking up smoking again. Ever. Sometimes you do need a little motivation from someone else.
You have to MAKE time.
You can always find a reason not to change. More often than not, it’s because you don’t have time. Look at your day, find the wasted minutes, or minutes that you could spend to work out, prepare healthy food, go back to school, whatever it is that you want to change. Reprioritize your time and make time for it.
You have to make it a priority.
Give it importance in your life. Making change a priority will ensure that you make time for it.
You have to stop making excuses.
Excuses, excuses. I don’t have time. I’ll start next week. I will start if… I can’t because… Stop it, just STOP! No more excuses. Excuses will get you absolutely no where! Get up, put excuses behind you and go chase that change!
You have to make the plunge.
Stop saying “tomorrow I will”. Don’t let fear keep you from changing. Just getting your toes wet is not going to get you there. You have to make the plunge!
You have to be disciplined to make a change.
As I said before, change does not generally come easy to us, once you decide that it is what you want and start going for it, when you lose motivation, you have to do it anyways!
You need accountability.
It is much easier to stick to something if you have someone other than yourself to keep you on track. A friend, a partner, a spouse. Tell them your goals and ask them to encourage and hold you to them.
You have to give it time.
You’re ready and you want the change, you have jumped all in and you are being disciplined about it. Maybe you’re seeing results, maybe you’re not. Give it time. Habits take time to form, bodies take time to slim, it will happen. Keep doing what you’re doing!
You can’t give up.
Change hurts sometimes. It’s uncomfortable and being disciplined is so much harder than just slipping back into your old habits, but, you’ve come this far, now don’t give up!
You know what you need to change, you want to change, you have the know how, no go get it!
Believe you can and you are half way there. ~Theodore Roosevelt